DIFFERENT FORMS OF ABUSE

Domestic violence does not always look the same in every relationship.
Abuse can happen to and be perpetuated by anyone regardless of gender, age, or sexuality.
However, one constant aspect of abuse is the abuser's desire to gain and maintain control over their partner.

Red Flags:


Emotional manipulation

Using isolation methods

Using gender as a leverage

Using intimidation tactics

Using coercion and threats

Restricting economic resources

Manipulation via vulnerabilities

Minimizing, denying, and blaming

PHYSICAL ABUSE

Physical abuse is the most recognized form of domestic violence as the marks left can be easily seen. 

Forcing You to Use Drugs/Alcohol 

Throwing Objects at You or Near You

Hitting, Kicking, Biting, Choking, Etc. 

Abandoning You in Unfamiliar Places

Harming Your Family, Friends, Or Pets

Driving Recklessly with You in The Car

Not Allowing You to Eat, Sleep, Sit, Etc. 

Trapping You/Keeping You from Leaving

Not Allowing You to Contact or Receive Emergency Services    

  

EMOTIONAL ABUSE

Emotional and verbal manipulation is another form of abuse that is often times considered more painful than physical abuse by many survivors. 

damaging your belongings

monitoring all of your activities

criticizing and insulting you constantly

controlling what you wear or how you act

telling you that no one else will want you

isolating you from your friends and family

cheating on you or accusing you of cheating

overly jealous, possessive, untrusting of you

gaslighting you; trying to make you feel like you’re crazy

bullying and humiliating you, especially in front of others

blaming you for everything; everything is always your fault

SEXUAL ABUSE

 You do not have a duty to provide sexual favors just because you are in a relationship with someone. You're consent, boundaries, and feelings matter regardless of if it is the 1st or the 101st time.

Forcing you to dress inappropriately

Forcing you to watch or make pornography

Purposefully giving/attempting to give you an STI

Performing sexual acts that were not consented to

Not wearing a condom when it was initially agreed upon

Insulting you in sexual ways or calling you explicit names

Involving other individuals in sexual activities without your consent

Forcing or manipulating you into having sex or performing sexual activities

FINANCIAL ABUSE

Financial extortion and restriction is another form of abuse that is used often in domestic violence relationships to gain power and control over the other individual.

Living with You and Refusing to Pay Their Way

Stealing Money from You, Your Family, Or Your Friends

Controlling Finances and Only Giving You an Allowance

Not Allowing You to Have Knowledge of Bank Accounts and Bills

Getting Credit Cards/Bills in Your Name Without Your Permission

Having Your Check Deposited into An Account You Don’t Have Access To

Not Allowing to Further Your Education So You Can Get or Progress A Career

Preventing You from Being Able to Get or Maintain A Job; Limiting The Hours You Can Work

ONLINE/DIGITAL ABUSE

Online or digital abuse is another form of verbal or emotional abuse when the abuser victimizes an individual via technology and the internet to bully, harass, stalk, intimidate, or control another.


Sending you negative, insulting, or threatening messages

Using technology to monitor your activities and movements

Insulting or humiliating you publicly via their posts or statuses

Sending or pressuring you to send explicit photos, videos, or sexts

Stealing or demanding access to social media accounts and passwords

Controlling who you can or can’t follow or be friends with on social media

Constantly going through your phone’s contents including messages, pictures, phone calls

Pretending to be you by creating fake social media accounts to message other people in order to embarrass or isolate you

 

REPRODUCTIVE COERCION

Reproductive coercion is a form of power and control that an abuser uses as leverage over their partner, taking away their ability to make decisions regarding their own reproductive system.

Lying About the Use of Birth Control Methods

Monitoring Menstrual Cycles and Ovulation Cycles

Refusing to Use Condoms or Other Forms of Birth Control

Intentionally Becoming Pregnant/Getting Partner Pregnant

Breaking/Removing a Condom Before Sex or Refusing to Pull Out

Keeping You Pregnant by Getting You Pregnant Shortly After You Give Birth

Forcing Pregnancy or Not Respecting Partner’s Decision About if or When to Have Children

STALKING

Stalking is defined as an abuser watching, following, or harassing you repeatedly to a point that you are afraid and feel as though you are unsafe. A stalker can be anyone: someone you know, a past partner, an acquaintance, or a stranger.

 

Calling You and Hanging Up Repeatedly

Waiting Around at Places You Frequent

Vandalizing and Damaging Your Property

Spreading Rumors About You Online or In Person

Hiring A Private Investigator to Follow or Find You

Sending You Unwanted Messages, Letters, or Gifts

Randomly Showing Up at Your Home, Workplace, Social Activities

Making Unwanted Phone Calls to You, Your Employer, Your Family, or Your School

Manipulating Other People into Investigating You [EX: Having Someone Befriend You On Social Media So They Can Monitor You Through Them]

 

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